Why We Miss Someone

Thoughts must not stay in the mind.

That factor of ‘missing you’ must not be there.

And you miss people precisely because you are not with them when the opportunity is there and it’s a very funny situation.

When the opportunity to be with someone is there, then we find ourselves compromising, then something stops us, something holds our feet back and we are not completely with them, and then the moment goes away.

The opportunity does not stay forever and when the moment is gone, then what are we doing? Then we are daydreaming, then we are texting “missing you.”

And why are you missing now? What were you really doing when you were together?  At that time your mind was occupied with something else, and it’s a very funny pattern of life, actually irritating.’

Real Education

Education has two layers to it. The first layer is the superficial one which deals with objects. Since your childhood you have studied Hindi, English, History, Geography, Mathematics and Technology. But you are not the languages; you are not the glaciers and the mountains that you read about in geography. You are not the kings and their kingdoms you read of in History.

Your education has filled your mind with knowledge about external objects; which is important to an extent. But that is just superficial.

Real education takes the mind not outwards but inwards. Real education is about a mind that is able to understand its own processes.

Why am I so insecure? Why am I always restless? Why can’t I be attentive? Why am I jealous? Why am I possessive? What is the quality of my relationships? What is Love? What is Joy? What is Truth? What is Freedom? A mind that cannot enquire into this is not an educated mind.

If you just have the first kind of education, you will get what someone has called as, ‘guided missiles and unguided men.’ What someone has called as, “smart phones and stupid people.” Don’t you see that every kid since childhood is being told to speak the truth, to be a loving being, to be non-violent? And still the child creates a world like this which is full of misery, suffering, corruption, violence, hatred and rape. Every criminal was a child once and every child is told of these moral and immoral things. Then why do people grow up to be murderers and rapists? Why?
Because the truth cannot come to you from outside, the truth of life cannot come to you from outside. It is a great misconception to think that ethics and morality can be taught.

Till the time you do not get the second kind of education life will remain violent, life will remain full of suffering. People will remain discontented. You must go within.

Every moment is worthy of celebration

It has been years, years and decades that you have been wanting to be happy, trying to be happy, trying to achieve happiness, and planning for happiness and none of that seems to be working – not for you, not for me, not for anybody else.

So obviously, this ought to be futile. Drop it, don’t follow it. Don’t want to be happy.

Who plans for happiness? The one who is not happy.

What is happening is that, in planning for happiness, you are constantly telling yourself, “I am not happy”. In constantly looking at a great future, you are telling yourself that there is something wrong with this day, this moment.

The one who is happy, is just happy. He does not want to be happy. He is just happy.

What prevents your happiness every moment? Ambitions, notions, beliefs about happiness, prevent you from being happy. If you have told yourself, “I will have the right to be happy only when I attain that dream job,” then you have condemned yourself to live in sorrow till you get that job. Is that not what we keep doing?

By telling someone that you will be good enough, you will be lovable, only if you turn out in a particular way, you are telling him that you are not alright as you are right now. You are giving the child a deep inferiority complex. “Go ahead, become something. Only then you will get respect!”

A desire of happiness is the sure shot recipe for unhappiness. The desire of happiness certainly leads to unhappiness. It comes from unhappiness, and it furthers unhappiness.

Every moment is worthy of celebration. Why can’t it be that way? The existential party is on twenty-four hours. It does not start at any particular time. It is continuously on twenty-four hours -the party of existence.

What prevents you from enjoying that party?

You are invited. You are always invited. Go ahead and enjoy the party. Do not plan happiness. Do not strive to be happy. Just be happy.

Happy Holi 2018

Holi ( /ˈhl/Sanskritहोली Holī), also known as the “festival of colours”, is a Hindu spring festival celebrated all across India and Nepal and among Hindus in Bangladesh and Pakistan as well as in countries with large Indian subcontinent diaspora populations such as Suriname, Guyana, Trinidad and Tobago, South Africa, Malaysia, the United Kingdom, the United States, Canada, Mauritius, and Fiji.[7][1][8] It signifies the victory of good over evil, the arrival of spring, end of winter, and for many a festive day to meet others, play and laugh, forget and forgive, and repair broken relationships.[9][10] It is also celebrated as a thanksgiving for a good harvest.[9][10] It lasts for a night and a day, starting on the evening of the Purnima (Full Moon day) falling in the Vikram Samvat Hindu Calendar [11] month of Phalguna, which falls somewhere between the end of February and the middle of March in the Gregorian calendar. The first evening is known as Holika Dahan or Chhoti Holi and the following day as Holi, Rangwali HoliDhuletiDhulandi,[12] or Phagwah.[13]

Holi is an ancient Hindu religious festival which has become popular with non-Hindus in many parts of South Asia, as well as people of other communities outside Asia.[9] In recent years the festival has spread to parts of Europe and North America as a spring celebration of love, frolic, and colours.[14][15][16]